"Self-centeredness, or selfishness in all its forms as "a way of life" in the marriage relationship (as it is in so many marriages today), will cause that relationship to fail... even if the marriage continues to survive." from Chapter 9 The Amazing Process, The 3 Lost Keys... to Your Amazing Dream Marriage
The truth is, being self-centered gets you nowhere in a marriage. The hope of us all is to be truly, happily married, sitting in matching rocking chairs, holding hands when we are in our golden years. There are a few secrets; a few lost keys that can help you get there. One of those keys has to do with selfishness. Your marriage may survive regardless of selfish attitudes, but your relationship will be less than "all it can be"... and that is a fact. A dream marriage is made of two individuals in a "dream relationship." Giving of yourself. The sharing of your life, (in all the daily interactions) with your loved one. Oneness. The mystery of two becoming one. That is what a dream relationship looks like.
Often these days couples 'intend' to live out the dream marriage described above... however, knowing the cold, hard facts of divorce, they often sadly believe that...
"...if it does not (or if I do not get out of it what I need), I can simply move on and try to find it in the next relationship." Chapter 14, The Wives part... A Very Important Dynamic!, The 3 Lost Keys... to Your Amazing Dream Marriage
Far too many marriages in America are ending prematurely these days if they are based on this logic. Couples "allow their relationships" to fail due to selfishness (i.e. not getting out of it what they wanted) and in turn, end their marriage. In either scenario, a failed relationship or marriage often begins with selfishness. What does the opposite look like you think? Do you assume, as sadly so many do, that if you give of yourself, it's like 'giving' in to your spouse? Or letting them win? Perhaps, in a sense, it is. But just like an apple tree dies when it falls from the tree, and then it's seeds sprout and bring forth life... so it will be in the marriage where giving of one's self is the "understood goal". Life begins to spring forth and grow...
With over 37 years of a thriving marriage behind them, the authors have plainly and beautifully described the keys to their success within the pages of this life-changing book.
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