Divorce: Debunking the Myth of Falling Out of Love

Bill and Jane met a few years back. Instantly, they liked the other's looks, the way they kissed, their wit and because they shared the same interests, the two began a romantic relationship. They both thought falling in love was so easy with your soul mate. They thought their love would last forever.  However, after being happily married for a few years Jane and Bill, like so many others, were splitting up because they had simply, 'fallen out of love'. What happened? 

Couples often say 'we just fell out of love' as the reason why their marriage is ending. In The 3 Lost Keys, we debunk the myth of being able to fall out of love with another.

What is Love?

Before we can answer what went wrong for our friend's Bill and Jane, we need to know what love is. Is love a choice, or is it a feeling, or both? 

Certainly anyone who has been married for any length of time knows that feelings are a very important part of the relationship. That's the fun part- ask Bill and Jane- feelings flowed freely when they first met. However, if love is a feeling, what happens when you feel anger at that person? Does your love cease for that time... or is love more than just a feeling? 

How can anyone expect to feel love, every minute of every day when there are stresses of life, money, children and jobs which interfere?

Perhaps, love is more than just a feeling...

In Chapter 2 titled "Understanding Love" of "The 3 Lost Keys to Your Amazing Dream Marriage,", one can find the answer bluntly laid out of what love is and what it is not, in the marriage relationship. 

WARNING! The truths revealed are to the point, and may be difficult to hear if you've been one to say you've 'fallen out of love' before. BUT IT'S SO WORTH IT FOR YOUR FUTURE RELATIONSHIPS TO READ IT NOW BEFORE ITS TOO LATE.

 "If you have been caught up in this most common 'misunderstanding' of love today, as so many others have, the 'true' understanding for you is critical to your future... and its never too late."  Chapter 2, "Understanding Love", The 3 Lost Keys... to Your Amazing Dream Marriage.

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Men & Women: Differences are Key!

"Every man who has wondered what in the world he did to make a woman cry, and every woman who has wondered how a man can be "so insensitive" knows...

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...there are significant differences in our emotional make up". Found in Chapter 11, of "The 3 Lost Keys", (a marriage enhancement book) this sentence speaks a truth we need to stop ignoring. Men and women are different. In every aspect and in many ways. However, the reason why these differences are important to the marriage relationship is simple, profound and life-changing.

In the book, we discuss in detail why men and women being different is key to a dream marriage relationship. Laid out clearly and in terms everyone can understand, one can learn why their wife is crying and why their husband is being 'so insensitive'.

"From our chromosomes and our genetic blueprints to the way we think about things and see things. We are just... quite obviously, very different... and aren't we glad that we are?"

A great example of this is my boy/girl twins. Their first Christmas when they were just nine months old, my daughter got a Cabbage Patch doll. Her first reaction was to hug and kiss it. A few moments later my son found the new doll. His first reaction, to throw it. From the very beginning, men and women are different and its a good thing we are.

You really must read this chapter, better yet the entire book, to fully understand the simple, yet life-changing conclusion to why men and women being different is key to a successful, amazing dream marriage. You will not learn: that its because you complete each other, or its because you were meant to 'balance each other out.' The answer is SO MUCH BIGGER THAN THIS. It is so much BETTER. Your marriage and your life will be transformed. So why wait? 

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Goals and Hopes in a Marriage: One is Fine, the Other is Not!

What's the difference... and how does this affect your marriage? 

The answer is found in Chapter 13 of, The 3 Lost Keys... To Your Amazing Dream Marriage; which is titled, "Goals and Hopes: One is Fine, the Other is Not!" Knowing the difference is something we all (ahem, more often us ladies) struggle with, and the tension it can put on a marriage can be devastating. If you haven't read the book yet, no problem, we can give you a little sample here that will explain the difference between goals and hopes in a marriage and why one is fine while the other is not. But if you want the full answer and more, you'll have to read the book.

Scenario One:

You want your husband, or soon-to-be-husband, to read our marriage enhancement book. You've purchased the eBook version, uploaded it to his Kindle, bookmarked the first page and wait a few days. You may even wait a week. Suddenly, he does something which makes you think, "He hasn't read that chapter yet." Next thing you know, you have his Kindle in your hands, pull up the eBook and sure enough notice he hasn't even read the introduction. 

Racing down the stairs with the evidence in your hands, you bring up the most recent infraction on his part and how in chapter 12 it says 'the man is the one who has to...' (I can't give it all away!) Now you are really rolling, telling him all you wanted him to do was just read the book and he couldn't even take time to do this for you. He's let you down, again. Oh, and that trash he was supposed to take out is still overflowing and the toilet he was supposed to fix is still running after you flush it. Yeah, that's right you say, I remember all the things you haven't done that I wanted you to do. 

Now its his turn. He reminds you of all the times you have let him down. Like to call the plumber and have him come fix the toilet and buy some more garbage bags because last time he checked, we were out. The next thing you know, you are in an all out argument and aren't even 100% sure what started it. Well, we do. 

Scenario Two:

Same situation. You want your husband, or soon-to-be-husband, to read the marriage self-help book. Rather than buy it and put it on his Kindle, you text him the link to do it when he can. Again, one night he does something which makes you think, "He sure hasn't read that chapter yet." Instead of running to his Kindle, seeing if he has read it and letting him know about it, you find another way. You gently ask him (at a later time so as not to imply the comment he made prompted you in any way) if he got the text with the link to a great marriage self-help book. 

At that time, he replies he opened the link, purchased the book and read the first few chapters. He loves that its short, easy to understand and for the first time, not written by some professional marriage counselor, but rather a man much like himself. Its easy to read, he says, and he can not wait to finish it. 

Now, which scenario sounds better? Which one did the wife have a goal and which one did she have a hope? What one had a better outcome?

Remember, for more on this chapter and how to have the dream marriage you've always wanted, read our book, "The 3 Lost Keys... to Your Amazing Dream Marriage." 

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