The feeling of love is amazing, isn't it? The feeling when your heart leaps each time you see that person who makes you feel like you're walking on air... the joy you feel when they say your name or that they love you...
"To become head over heels for someone to the point of losing rational judgement; to become 'titillated', enraptured or starry eyed about them, and to become romantically and intimately drawn to them and to develop a strong desire for them." Chapter 4 Infatuation, The 3 Lost Keys... to Your Amazing Dream Marriage.
That's how we describe love on television, in movies, books and even to each other anyways. However, we are doing ourselves and each other a terrible injustice. These adjectives and descriptions laid out above define INFATUATION, not love.
Take the blindfold of infatuation off and see it for what it really is: an inconsistent, (albeit very fun) emotion. One which comes and goes, like waves in the ocean. It can be there one minute... and gone the next. If love were infatuation, can you imagine what marriages would look like? We would have a lot of divorces... Okay, so I am being sarcastic. THIS is why we have so many divorces as so many people associate these romantic feelings of ecstasy as being love. Therefore, when they come and ... then ... go, they think they don't 'love' their spouse any longer. They simply never had a 'true' understanding of love, so maybe they're not really to blame. Maybe it's a deeper, SOCIETY WIDE issue today.
In The 3 Lost Keys... to Your Amazing Dream Marriage there is a key principle discussed in chapter 4 titled Infatuation... It can be good... and it can be bad... that is, if it is not understood for what it really is.
Love is described and explained in a way which finally makes sense. As long as you desire (and are open to) maybe seeing it in a way you haven't before. We all have been, at one time or another, blindfolded by infatuation and lead willingly (as infatuation feels so good) to believe that it is love. Infatuation is simply not love.
Take for example this couple. Meeting at the young age of 17 they instantly are drawn to one another. Everyone can see it. Others are in fact envious of the way they are when with one another. Over time they feel that they have 'fallen in love'. So... they get married. However, neither of them truly understands what love is supposed to be... in the marriage relationship. Yes, they are feeling all the romantic ecstasy and emotional highs that are a part of infatuation... but they don't understand yet the deeper... more important part of an enduring marriage relationship. So, when things in life happen... they feel that maybe they are falling "out of love" I mean, if you can fall into love... you can fall out of love... right? Or can you...?
'Infatuation can occur, on its own, without making a decision to extend true 'love'. Chapter 4 Infatuation The 3 Lost Keys... to Your Amazing Dream Marriage
Let's look at another couple. They meet a little later in life, say around 22. Although he was instantly drawn to her, she was not drawn to him, until later. Until she sat down and talked with him about her life, her disappointments. He listened and over the course of time they too 'fell in love'. Meaning, they were infatuated with one another (again, a very good thing if understood for what it is). When push came to shove, he was always willing to put her first. He loved seeing her happy, even if it meant giving up something of his own life. He never questioned her, but instead trusted and respected her. She in turn, adored him. They were well on their way to beginning to understand what LOVE in the marriage relationship should be.
"Only 'True' Love Endures."
Now, don't worry if you had the blindfold on. We all have at one time or another. That feeling when someone is infatuated with you (and you with them) is amazing. However, it comes and it goes, and has nothing to do with true, selfless love. Be bold and take the blindfold off. Discover what true love for another really is, be ready to delve into your soul and learn what it really means to love another, as a married couple should.
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