What Happens When We Try to Fix our Marriage Without The Right Tools

Jane- The 'Fixer'

Jane was frustrated. John was so dense. Their marriage was falling apart. She was once so infatuated with him. Now, she saw him clearly and wasn't sure if she wanted to remain married. She never complained about anything, yet he never asked how she was. She was not okay. Searching the internet, she found the information overwhelming for how to improve their marriage. Her heart yearned for more, but would that ever happen? She began delving into chores around the house hoping he would notice and he didn't...

John- 'The Average Joe..'

John was put off. His wife suddenly was not the carefree woman he married. She used to make his heart race and now she was constantly trying to outdo him. Like their marriage was some sort of competition she could win. She never asked him to help her, but would angrily complete the dishes every night. One thing was for sure, she was angry all the time. John couldn't figure out why. He wanted to help her, but clueless as to how, John just went about his business.

Jane and John are a tragic, yet common story of what has become the norm in our society. Two people, barely surviving, in a marriage relationship. Jane, like many women want to 'fix' their marriage while men, like John, can be emotionally clueless to their wives' needs.

There is HOPE! The right tools, (defined as "understandings") combined with willing and open hearts, can bring about an amazing, dream marriage relationship. 

Love's true definition, along with 3 key principles to help you begin to understand the way a marriage can thrive, are revealed in The 3 Lost Keys... to Your Amazing Dream Marriage. These keys are all but lost, but now in this life-changing, revolutionary new book of our age you can learn about, and apply these simple, but profound, principles to your marriage today. 

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The Blindfold of Infatuation: Its Time to Take it Off

The feeling of love is amazing, isn't it? The feeling when your heart leaps each time you see that person who makes you feel like you're walking on air... the joy you feel when they say your name or that they love you... 

"To become head over heels for someone to the point of losing rational judgement; to become 'titillated', enraptured or starry eyed about them, and to become romantically and intimately drawn to them and to develop a strong desire for them." Chapter 4 Infatuation, The 3 Lost Keys... to Your Amazing Dream Marriage.

That's how we describe love on television, in movies, books and even to each other anyways. However, we are doing ourselves and each other a terrible injustice. These adjectives and descriptions laid out above define INFATUATION, not love. 

Take the blindfold of infatuation off and see it for what it really is: an inconsistent, (albeit very fun) emotion. One which comes and goes, like waves in the ocean. It can be there one minute... and gone the next. If love were infatuation, can you imagine what marriages would look like? We would have a lot of divorces...  Okay, so I am being sarcastic. THIS is why we have so many divorces as so many people associate these romantic feelings of ecstasy as being love. Therefore, when they come and ... then ... go, they think they don't 'love' their spouse any longer. They simply never had a 'true' understanding of love, so maybe they're not really to blame. Maybe it's a deeper, SOCIETY WIDE issue today.

In The 3 Lost Keys... to Your Amazing Dream Marriage there is a key principle discussed in chapter 4 titled Infatuation... It can be good... and it can be bad... that is, if it is not understood for what it really is. 

Love is described and explained in a way which finally makes sense. As long as you desire (and are open to) maybe seeing it in a way you haven't before. We all have been, at one time or another, blindfolded by infatuation and lead willingly (as infatuation feels so good) to believe that it is love. Infatuation is simply not love. 

Take for example this couple. Meeting at the young age of 17 they instantly are drawn to one another. Everyone can see it. Others are in fact envious of the way they are when with one another. Over time they feel that they have 'fallen in love'. So... they get married. However, neither of them truly understands what love is supposed to be... in the marriage relationship. Yes, they are feeling all the romantic ecstasy and emotional highs that are a part of infatuation... but they don't understand yet the deeper... more important part of an enduring marriage relationship. So, when things in life happen... they feel that maybe they are falling "out of love" I mean, if you can fall into love... you can fall out of love... right? Or can you...?

'Infatuation can occur, on its own, without making a decision to extend true 'love'. Chapter 4 Infatuation The 3 Lost Keys... to Your Amazing Dream Marriage

Let's look at another couple. They meet a little later in life, say around 22. Although he was instantly drawn to her, she was not drawn to him, until later. Until she sat down and talked with him about her life, her disappointments. He listened and over the course of time they too 'fell in love'. Meaning, they were infatuated with one another (again, a very good thing if understood for what it is). When push came to shove, he was always willing to put her first. He loved seeing her happy, even if it meant giving up something of his own life. He never questioned her, but instead trusted and respected her. She in turn, adored him. They were well on their way to beginning to understand what LOVE in the marriage relationship should be.

"Only 'True' Love Endures."

Now, don't worry if you had the blindfold on. We all have at one time or another. That feeling when someone is infatuated with you (and you with them) is amazing. However, it comes and it goes, and has nothing to do with true, selfless love. Be bold and take the blindfold off. Discover what true love for another really is, be ready to delve into your soul and learn what it really means to love another, as a married couple should. 

We invite you to discover the 3 lost key principles to your forever, dream marriage by clicking here and getting a life-changing, heart-felt, truth-spoken, revolutionary new book on the marriage relationship.

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Not Riches, Not Health, Not Fame, Not Power.. Can Compare to This!

They all fall miserably short when compared to living your life with your soul mate in a marriage relationship that is satisfying, fulfilling and exciting every new day of your life. Chapter 5, Only 'True' Love Endures, The 3 Lost Keys... to Your Amazing Dream Marriage

You've heard, 'it takes one to know one'. The above sentence speaks truth from one who knows what this is like. The author of The 3 Lost Keys... to Your Amazing Dream Marriage, speaks of a time in his life wherein, (by all outwards accounts) he had it all. The job, the beautiful wife, the kids and the list goes on. Yet, when he began to learn about the three keys to an amazing marriage, well, the truth and power encompassed in this simple sentence... became real to him.

All the riches in the world still can't quench our thirst for the one thing we all truly desire: A fulfilling, satisfying, exciting life with our soul mate. Not health, not fame or power will complete this precious place in our soul. 

Is your marriage relationship an example of this... or do you hope it can be some day? If you said yes to the latter, the quote taken above is from a revolutionary, life-changing (yet, concise and easy to read) book where three key principles every married couple needs to know are revealed for the very first time. 

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What are the Keys to a Dream Marriage?

Often in life we daydream about how our lives could be better. In these times of deep thought, we may turn on the radio for an inspirational song or open the newest enlightening book for insight. Perhaps your thing is to sit in the quiet with a cup of coffee, or a bowl or ice cream, and daydream about what you could be doing differently in life, or how you might change the "direction" of your life. One of the most common topics of advice books, blogs and websites is: (you guessed it) the marriage relationship. Since the 1930's couples have sought out marriage counseling and advice and it has only grown with the skyrocketing number of separations and divorces over the decades; and especially "our" decade.

During one such time of a man's quest to find what might be "missing"from his marriage relationship... he had an epiphany.

"I suddenly knew I was seeing something that was hugely important for me to see; something hugely important for our lives together." Chapter 7 The Day 'It' Happened , The 3 Lost Keys... to Your Amazing Dream Marriage

This epiphany was life changing for him. Although when it comes to marriage advice, there is a plethora of information to delve into; we believe the true keys to a great and enduring marriage, and they are quite simple...  have been lost to many (maybe most) over the years. In this concise and 'life-changing' book, The 3 Lost Keys... to Your Amazing Dream Marriage, the author reveals the three keys in which he has learned have been absolutely critical in the success of his own dream marriage of over 37 years. 

Daydreaming and true life evaluation is great for our souls. It's a time to inwardly assess what is perhaps missing in our lives or how we can be better, do better. If you find yourself "wondering", please get The 3 Lost Keys today! Listen to what one of our readers said:

"Such a simple but deeply life changing revelation. Worded in easy to understand language... I will place this book in an accessible position in my home."  Holly, April 11th, 2015 

Why Does it Matter: Gender Differences

We live in the age of equality. Everyone should be treated the same. Society would have us believe there is not a difference between boys and girls or men and women. However, we are not the same, are we?

'Or maybe closer to the truth is that they want to believe it so that they can make a more powerful argument about women having equal rights with men...' Chapter 11, 'The Way We Are: Men & Women, The 3 Lost Keys... to Your Amazing Dream Marriage

 But the truth is: men and women are just put together differently. Regarding the marriage relationship (between a man and woman mind you) there are significant differences; and aren't we glad that there are? Sure, there can be communication breakdowns and monthly emotional mood swings, but there is beauty in two people choosing to love each other and accept each other unconditionally. In spite of their 'differences'.

In The 3 Lost Keys... to Your Amazing Dream Marriage, the author clearly states what makes men and women different. He delves into what men and women desire, and the secret which perfectly aligns these to create a most amazing marriage union. In fact, these 'differences' between men and women are essential to the marriage relationship.

'Whether you call it evolution, the way God made us, or instincts given by nature, it is nevertheless true.' Chapter 11, 'The Way We Are', The 3 Lost Keys... to Your Amazing Dream Marriage.

It doesn't matter what you believe, but it is plain to see if you observe a marriage for any length of time, that men and women are just different. They were created this way. In this concise work, the puzzle pieces are clearly put together and a crystal clear picture is painted. The path to an amazing dream marriage can be yours.

Get The 3 Lost Keys today and begin to learn about, and put into practice, the 3 key principles this revolutionary book spells out in a short, easy read. Men who do not even like to read praise this concise book and it's simple principles. 

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You can lead a horse to water...

A magic wand would solve everything, Jane thought as she sat crying about her most recent spat with John, her husband of nearly 15 years. She just wanted him to read the book. If she could just get him to, no make him, understand how a marriage is supposed to work, they wouldn't have just had this fight, again. If he would just read the book, then he would understand, Jane thought again. 

How do I help my husband/boyfriend to understand these principles and encourage him to see what our lives could be like and ultimately want them? Chapter 17, 'You can lead a horse to water...' The 3 Lost Keys... to Your Amazing Dream Marriage.

It all started innocently enough when Jane asked John about the marriage book she wanted him to read... the third time that week.

John sighed and said, "I know, Jane. You've asked me this numerous times. But remember, I am busy. I work hard all day and when I get in bed, all I want to do is sleep." 

Jane replied, "I work hard all day too and this marriage, our marriage, should be important to you too. I just want you to read it. Is that too much to ask?"

John was getting more frustrated now. "Yes, yes it is."

This really ruffled Jane's feathers. "Oh really? But looking on your phone for 30 minutes before bed isn't too hard, is it? You know, you could be reading during that time instead."

John shook his head. "You know what Jane, I'm not going to read the book. EVER."

'A goal is something you will do certain things for or take certain actions to try to accomplish.' Chapter 13, 'Goals and Hopes', The 3 Lost Keys... to Your Amazing Dream Marriage.

Goals are good for us to have for ourselves. However, as you can tell from Jane and John's conversation, pushing your spouse towards a goal you have for them, will only push them the opposite direction. You can lead a horse to water... but you can not make them drink.

In the book, The 3 Lost Keys... to Your Amazing Dream Marriage, Jane learned three principles that can transform a marriage. She strongly desired her husband to read it and learn them as well. However, in the same book, Chapter 17 discusses how a wife can better lead her horse (husband) to water. 

A magic wand would be nice. However, it is not realistic. Let the 3 principles revealed in this revolutionary new book transform your soon-to-be or current marriage TODAY. 

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The Way You View Love and How It Affects Your Marriage

"... how you 'see' and 'understand' LOVE, and the marriage relationship, will dictate how you 'act and react' (what path you will choose at the many and varied decision points), in your own marriage relationship." Chapter 1 'The Beginning: What is Love?' The 3 Lost Keys... to Your Very Own Amazing Dream Marriage

How we view love is dependent on our own unique past experiences and what we were, or were not, taught. Our expectations for marriage are born out of these experiences.

It's important to note in a marriage you have two people with different, aka subjective, views on love. What each of you saw demonstrated as love by your own parents was different and it affected how you view love. What you each saw on television over the years was different and affected you differently, again making your view of what love in a marriage is, very, you guessed it, 'different'.

Subjective: based on or influenced by personal feelings, tastes, or opinions.

So how do you get on the same page when it comes to viewing love? Well, as intelligent human beings, we can be taught how to view something. For example, we are taught to follow the speed limit. We also have our own 'subjective view' on what we think the speed limit should be on the same road. Much like the speed limit, we have our own beliefs of what marriage should look like. Now, if we follow our own speed limit on the road, there may be consequences. Tickets, accidents, etc. The same is true for following our own path regarding what we expect love in a marriage to be, like when we are not on the same page. These are more personally catastrophic; and may even eventually lead to divorce and heartbreak.

There are 3 key principles everyone can learn about in the marriage relationship which can put you and your spouse on the same page. Although we can be taught the reason for speed limits and to obey them to 'get on the same page' as the law (and everyone else on the road for that matter), this doesn't mean we believe it. The same follows for love in a marriage; you can be taught or shown what love should be in a marriage so as to be on the same page as your spouse, but you may still hold on to your own 'subjective view' of what you 'think' it should be. To move forward, you must drop these false views of love and accept the truth and power the 3 Key Principles this book unveils.

Then, and only then, can you begin to learn and apply the 3 lost principles to your own Amazing Dream Marriage. 

But what version of 'love' in the marriage relationship should you agree upon? In our book, The 3 Lost Keys... To Your Amazing Dream Marriage, Chapter One titled 'What is LOVE?' covers the topic thoroughly. The short, concise book is revolutionary in today's world of so many separations and divorces. With just 3 Key Principles, every marriage in America and throughout the world can be transformed. 

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